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Forgiveness Is FreedomIn looking back on our lives, we carry a lot of self-blame, guilt, and thoughts of “could’ve, would’ve, should’ve” done this, that, or the other thing. In retrospect, we can almost always think of ways we could have handled any given situation better. And yet, in the moment, it was the best choice we could make at that time. Of course, hindsight offers us many options. This is what learning from our experiences is about. In fact, there are no mistakes, only lessons to learn.

The problem with life’s great lessons is that our mistakes become an impediment if we let them. You may understand in retrospect that you had a choice and you chose the wrong one. This becomes something we hang onto, and when we hang onto the past, it affects us in the present. We use these wrong choices as a reason to beat ourselves up. Unfortunately, this keeps us locked into a cycle of violence against ourselves. This will continually drain our energy and result in a much lower vibration level than is healthy for us.

It is important to know that, when we make mistakes in the past, we have the opportunity to make different choices in the present. This does not mean that we do not make amends for our wrongdoings. We do, but then we must let go of them. If we choose to hang onto them, we are in danger of recreating them in the future. Letting go requires forgiving ourselves and others because forgiveness is what ultimately releases us from our past. Forgiveness (for give) is for you to give to yourself. It has nothing to do with the person that you are forgiving; it is completely and utterly for you. Forgiveness is freedom, liberating us to vibrate at much higher levels of peace and joy.

FIVE STEPS TO FORGIVENESS

1. Awareness. Becoming aware or conscious that forgiveness is freedom and that, to be free, you must forgive yourself, and then others.

2. Release. Release all energy necessary for you to forgive. Even if at this point you cannot forgive yourself or another, you can ask your spirit and Creator to assist you in releasing any energy that keeps you tied to the past.

3. Learn. Learn from your experience. Once you begin to understand what the lesson is that you can take away from your experience, you begin to create forgiveness.

4. Allow. Allow yourself to have forgiveness. When you are able to acknowledge you deserve forgiveness, then you allow yourself to have it for you, and then for another.

5. Be. Be forgiveness. Once you can completely forgive yourself, you can then be forgiving of others and you can ultimately be free.

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Spirit Led Heart We begin on the visionary path by choosing love. What is it that you love? What is the one thing you would do just for the sake of doing it? For me, it has always been teaching others. When I was six years old, I would pretend with my neighborhood friends that I was the teacher and they were my students. I loved helping my friends discover the joy in learning. This came absolutely naturally to me—no one told me to play this way.

What we love is what we play. We often did this as a child, and if we are spirit led, we are still doing it now. Joseph Campbell said, “Follow your bliss.” He was not talking about ego gratification, but that deep love that is within us. No one can tell us what it is; we just know it. It is a resonance that comes from our spirit.

The tool I’m about to show you allows you to explore what makes your heart sing. If your heart is the window, your spirit is the door. Your heart can lead you to your spirit, and your spirit will open the door to your vision.

Close your eyes and place your hand on your heart. Take a few deep breaths, inhaling deeply into your heart. Then, ask yourself, What would make my heart sing? Remember to keep it simple. Your heart will lead you to what your spirit knows to be true. If you are having a hard time, remember some of the things you loved as a child.

Write down at least ten things that make your heart sing. These are the things you absolutely love, from the small things to the big ones. They do not need to have any logical reason why you love them. In fact, it is much better if they don’t—then you know your mind is not involved in this process.

Now, pick one thing to do today. This is how you let your heart lead you to your spirit’s vision—one joyful experience at a time.

 

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Practical Spirituality“Are you out of your mind?” I often say this at the beginning of my seminars. Most people laugh because they think of this as a “bad” thing; no one wants to appear crazy. Yet, exiting the mind is a prerequisite to being spirit led. This can be a difficult task without the right tools. How often do you experience monkey-mind—where you can’t stop your thoughts; they just keep spinning round and round in your head? Well, for most of us, this is a common daily occurrence. If you have driven your car from one place to another and can’t remember the journey, you have been experiencing monkey-mind. Imagine what you may be missing while you’re driving to your destination, not to mention your entire life’s journey. Learning to still your mind leads to a more focused, productive, and joyous day, but most importantly, it leads to spirit.

Sherry, one of my Spirit Coaching clients, was constantly thinking—thinking about her to-do list, her children, her job, her futureFrom the moment she woke up to the moment she went to bed, Sherry was thinking. As you can imagine, this made going to sleep rather difficult. Sherry couldn’t stop her mind from racing, and this kept her awake night after night. She began to practice a tool I taught her where she would stop and take a minute to visualize a ball of golden light expanding in the center of her head, pushing out all of her thoughts. She did this technique before going to bed and found that it calmed her down and she was able to relax enough to fall asleep. This helped her get much-needed sleep and made her days better. Based on the great results she was getting by using this tool before bed, Sherry started to use it during the day when she felt scattered. She noticed that she became more relaxed, peaceful, and productive during her day. She later told me, “It is amazing what gets done when you are out of your mind.”

This is the first transformational tool I taught Sherry and the first one I would like to share with you.

TRANSFORMATIONAL TOOL #1: QUIET YOUR MIND

1. Imagine a small golden ball of healing light, about the size of a quarter, in the center of your head. You can visualize this or just simply feel the healing light in your head expanding.

2. Let the golden light slowly grow until it fills your entire skull, with the intention of pushing out all of your thoughts.

3. Imagine the light glowing brightly and expanding slightly beyond your physical head, keeping your focus on the golden light for one minute or more.

You can use this tool anywhere. It takes one minute or less and can help you begin the process of exiting your mind. The next time you are aware you are no longer present, take a moment to use this tool.

Repeat this process as needed. You will be amazed at the peace that comes from a still mind, not to mention other profound benefits.

From the new book, Spirit Led Instead: The Little Tool Book of Limitless Transformation

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Clear Your ClutterIf you can’t see clearly than clear the clutter. Often times we look out at our world and are unclear about certain things. We may just be unclear within. This is when taking out the trash can be handy. Pretending that we do not accumulate a lot of junk in our own space is deluding ourselves. We have just as much negative thought, feelings and emotions as the next person. And if we do not get rid of this energy, it muddies our clarity. Over time this can be subtle but eventually we notice the lack of discernment we are experiencing. The solution is simple: take out the trash. Find ways to release the thoughts and feelings that aren’t serving you. Spend time in no thought, like a still pond that becomes very clear. Take the time to be in this stillness, the level of clarity that comes from this will be a welcomed addition in your life. There is never too much going on outside, just too much going on within. Shift the balance by letting go. This you have complete choice over.

If you would like a Spirit Coach Transformational Tool to help you to “take out the trash”, you can use The Let Go and Know List.

How To Receive What You Are Asking ForAsk and you shall receive. This is something we have heard again and again but what does it really mean? Often when we ask for something, we do receive it but we either miss it or push it away because it does not look like the way we thought it should. We have an idea about the way we want something and how that something should look. When what we receive doesn’t match this, we negate or feel like what we asked for is not being provided for. But what if it is? What if, when we ask for courage, we are given a situation to be courageous? Or when we ask for abundance, we are asked to find abundance in something that appears finite? When we open to the miracle of asking, we must also open to the miracle of what comes. It may not look like or feel like what we thought but it may lead us to where we want to go and grow by stretching us out of our comfort zone. As we open more fully to embracing the unknown, we can know so much more by allowing life to give us what we need, when we need it. Our mind, thinks, it has all the answers but it does not. Ask, and you shall receive exactly what you need. Now open up and see yourself and your life in a new way, there you will find the miracle.

 

Alignment is the Key to Being on TargetWhat is it that allows us to repeatedly hit our target? It is not some random bulls eye but a consistent hitting of our target again and again. This accuracy comes from a place in us that contains the strength, courage and discernment needed to hit our target. If we ourselves are out of alignment so will the arrow be. Recognizing that our alignment within is key to our success without. If we are slightly out of alignment within, the arrow will miss the bulls eye not by a little but often by a lot. So what is alignment and how can we have more of it? Alignment comes when we are centered within ourselves, connected to our spirit and grounded in present time. As we move through the world from this position everything else falls into line because we are lined up first. Take the time to focus on your alignment and what you intend, will be.

Life is a SchoolMany of us have forgotten that challenge is what makes us great. Without challenge there is no learning. Life is a schoolhouse; the way we learn is through challenge. No one is exempt. Use the following questions to turn any challenge into success. Let life’s challenges make you better not bitter.

1.  What really matters to me in life?

2. What am I grateful for, right now?

3. What are my lessons and how will they help me grow?

4.  How does what I am going through contribute to the lives of others?

5. Am I inviting and allowing others to support me? If not, how can I?

6. Who am I willing to be? What am I willing to do to achieve my dreams?

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands in times of challenge.”     -Martin Luther King, Jr.

Centering YourselfWhen you find yourself spinning round and round, it is your mind that is on overdrive. This may or may not be replicated in the body but nonetheless you are spinning out of control. This is not a judgment but rather a way to understand how the mind can just simply exhaust us by taking us in circles of thoughts that lead to more thoughts and lead to more thoughts. When we recognize this pattern, we can just stop it—by finding our center, not the center of our mind but being centered in spirit. This is ultimately a place of no thought. When you touch this center point, thoughts begin to dissipate leaving you with a peace that comes from being still inside. From this still point comes the wisdom that you seek. It is not arrived at logically, mentally or physically but must be found energetically. This is the way.

To be centered in your self is to be completely present. This means you bring 100 percent of your energy here, in the now, which is the most powerful place to be. Without the right tool, this can almost seem impossible to achieve. You may be present for one moment, and then the next moment you are thinking about that meeting you have to attend later today. When you are thinking about the future or thinking about the past, you are not in the present. The result is, your energy is dispersed. Whatever you are doing in the moment takes more time, energy, and focus because you are not centered. This tool has been revolutionary for many of my clients. The results they get from being present are not only key for more clarity, focus, and attention, but without it, they were literally missing large portions of their lives.

Centering: Four Steps to Find Your Center

1. Imagine what the center of the earth looks like to you. It could look like a solid ball of rock, a crystal, or anything that you imagine to be a strong anchor for you.

2. Next, visualize and/or feel a strong, sturdy tree trunk with a beam of white light in the center. Let this beautiful tree trunk encompass your entire rib cage, front-to-back and side-to-side.

3. See this tree going all the way down through your physical body, through the floor, and through all the layers of the earth.

4. Let the roots of the tree wrap around the center of the earth, what you imagine to be your anchor, several times, connecting you to the healing energy of the planet.

Continue visualizing and/or feeling this tree connecting you, rooting you, and grounding you until you have the sensation of being grounded and rooted in present-time.

How To Choose WiselyChoices are what make life interesting. Yet, they can be a source of much discomfort. When we feel we need to choose, we often don’t, because we do not want to lose something. This requires us to realize that even when we do not choose, we have chosen. Allow yourself the freedom, free from pressures of the mind to choose what is aligned for you. There is a Divine timing to all choices. When we are in synch with our spirit, we will also be in synch with Divine timing. We can listen and follow what is true from that deepest part of ourselves. This requires exiting the mind and listening to that small subtle voice within. When we do, our choices are the best choices for us. And this leads to our highest and best life experience.

AbundanceIf you were flooded with abundance, like money falling from the sky, what would you do? So often we say to ourselves “if only, I had more money, I would…” Time and time again we believe it is money that keeps us from doing what we love. The truth is money is often not the issue at all, nothing can stop us from what we love to do – even money. Money is just energy. When we pursue what we love, what follows is energy and energy begets energy. If you could do anything, what would it be? Don’t let money be an excuse, really allow yourself to imagine doing what you love. Then, go out and do it – even if it is for 5 minutes a day. Start small and what will eventually happen is you will build a life that is all about what you love. This is abundance.

Five Steps To More Abundance

1. FaithFocus All Intention Toward Higher-self

Let go of the problem, back up and back out of it. Shift your perspective. This is a prerequisite to any solution.

2. Alignment with Creator

Align yourself with Creator by being grounded in present time, aligning your chakras and radiating the color of Source energy.

3. Co-Creation

Let go of your agenda as it is too small and limiting. Recognize that when you set your intention to co-create the results will be so much better than you could have planned.

4. Aligned Action

Listen to your next aligned step, not all the steps you think you need to create the results you want, but rather, the step that your spirit knows you must take to co-create what is better than you can imagine at this point.

5. Trust

Trust that it can be this easy.

Abundance is the absence of any internal limits so you can have any experience you choose.

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