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If you are having a hard time meditating successfully, you may be practicing the wrong kind of meditation. If you are anything like me, you have monkey-mind—your mind just doesn’t quiet down even when you are meditating. Active meditations changed my life because they are different than passive meditations as they use visualization to give the mind something constructive to do so it stops getting in the way. If you find yourself off center or perhaps stuck in thinking about the past or future, this is a wonderful meditation to use to bring you back into present time. This is where everything you want actually is.

JUST-TRUST-It-willOne of my spiritual teachers told me once that life experiences either make you bitter or better; it is your choice. In fact, it is the only choice we get to make as life challenges are upon us. If we let them, difficult experiences can scar us in a way that creates a distrust of life. If we are not careful the scars of the past, are recreated in the future again and again. It is important to reframe our “difficult experiences” as lessons that we, then, integrate. In order to do this, we must forgive ourselves, and others. Forgiveness is what frees us from the past. It is only then, that we can let go of the past and embrace the present fully. This embracing requires TRUST. Trust in ourselves, trust in the universe, and trust in God. Ultimately, trusting, or not, is our choice. When we become untrusting of life we become very protective of whatever it is we fear. This protective mode creates a wall around us which eventually becomes our box which we can never quite break out of. This becomes the limits that we place on our lives. These limits translate into limiting beliefs and our boxes becomes forever too small for us to live in. We never live our true potential. Life has an illusion of safety in our boxes and yet it can never open us to our greatness.

 The Steps to Trusting:

1. Awareness: Becoming aware of what you fear will lead you to past experiences that are the root of this fear.

2. Reframe: Once you discover the root of the fear, understand the lesson you learned from your challenging experience.

3. Forgive: Forgive yourself and others for past experiences We each make the best choice we can in any given moment. And each new moment gives us the opportunity to choice differently. This allows you to let go of the past.

4. Trust: Put your trust in your higher-self and a higher power. You will feel supported and learn to trust this support.

Imagine what would happen if that constant nagging voice that says, “I should get more work done, I should clean the office, I should take that new client, I should…” went away. At the very least, it would create a lot more empty space in our heads. Perhaps it is exactly the space that is needed to be more inventive, to create anew, like an artist who approaches his clean white canvas on which to create his masterpiece. I think most of us have become so accustomed to the voices in our head that tell us what we should do that we have forgotten that we get to choose.

The shoulds are like software programs that just keep running—eventually we forget why we were running them in the first place; they simply run us. Even when they have initially been put in place for a positive result, they can eventually become a hindrance instead of a help. If your “should” program is still running you, you may be caught in a lifestyle that is exhausting and unsustainable. There is a way to break out of this cycle.

Just take a moment and say the words, “I choose.” Feel the power culminating within you. In contrast, say the words, “I should.” Now, feel the energy draining from you. This is what happens every time you use “should,” either out loud or in your thoughts.

Once you begin to liberate yourself from “I should,” you begin to experience a new kind of freedom to discern your truth and follow it. Choosing your thoughts and words carefully will increase your discernment and energy levels and lead to a life you choose. This is the reason I developed this transformational tool. Let’s exercise our free will; the results are nothing less than freedom.

1. Think of something that you believe you “should” be doing more of in your life. Say this out loud.
For example:
I should visit my family for the holidays.

2. Now, replace “I should” with the words “I choose.”
For example:
I choose to visit my family for the holidays.

3. Then say it out loud to yourself. What do you become aware of?
Observe what it feels like when you say it. Does it resonate as true for you? Or does it feel untrue? Let your spirit guide you. It knows what is best for you and the best time to do it. Remember, not choosing is also a choice.
For example:
I choose to visit my family for the holidays.

What did I become aware of? I don’t have to go home for every holiday, only when I choose to. I noticed I don’t resent my family and have a much better time when I choose to be with my family on the holidays, versus when I feel I am doing it out of obligation.

4. Once you become aware of your choice, bring 100 percent of your energy to that choice. Own it and watch the action you take get done more quickly and better than ever, while actually enjoying the experience.

Practice this tool regularly in your daily life. Your ability to discern your truth and follow it will increase as you use it. Before long, you will trust yourself more and more. When you believe in you (your spirit), nothing is impossible.

From the new book, Spirit Led Instead: The Little Tool Book of Limitless Transformation
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Learning to still your mind leads to a more focused, productive, and joyous day, but most importantly, it leads to spirit. You can use this tool anywhere. It takes one minute or less and can help you begin the process of exiting your mind. The next time you are aware you are no longer present, take a moment to use this transformational tool. Repeat this process as needed. You will be amazed at the peace that comes from a still mind, not to mention other profound benefits.
From the new book, Spirit Led Instead: The Little Tool Book of Limitless Transformation
Get your free chapter at SpiritLedInstead.com

Many of us complete the year and we don’t feel a sense of completion. There is always more to do and often it feels like we have never done enough. So how can we really complete our year and feel great about it? It is so important to have closure for our year and not only closure but to recognize how much we transformed, accomplished and succeeded throughout our year. This gives us the momentum to step into the New Year energized and ready to co-create an inspirational year. Everyone wants to feel this way but most of us don’t. Here is a solution that works. I have been using it personally and with my clients for many years. It’s simply called, What Worked in 2013.


Take one-minute from the holiday hustle and bustle to relax, realign and let your light shine with this healing holiday meditation I made for you. Happy Holy Days. Be the light that you are.


This process will help you tune into what is most aligned for you and manifest it with ease and grace. Instead of just randomly picking images that appeal to me out of various magazines, I do my Vision Board a little differently. My mind has all kinds of ideas about what my life should look like, but it really doesn’t know what will truly fulfill me on a heart and soul level. So when I am visioning, I let my spirit be my guide. It always leads me to my highest and best path. If you take a risk and are willing to get out of your mind, you will find it is there, your greatest life experience awaits you. Here is how you create a Vision Board from spirit.

Forgiveness Is FreedomIn looking back on our lives, we carry a lot of self-blame, guilt, and thoughts of “could’ve, would’ve, should’ve” done this, that, or the other thing. In retrospect, we can almost always think of ways we could have handled any given situation better. And yet, in the moment, it was the best choice we could make at that time. Of course, hindsight offers us many options. This is what learning from our experiences is about. In fact, there are no mistakes, only lessons to learn.

The problem with life’s great lessons is that our mistakes become an impediment if we let them. You may understand in retrospect that you had a choice and you chose the wrong one. This becomes something we hang onto, and when we hang onto the past, it affects us in the present. We use these wrong choices as a reason to beat ourselves up. Unfortunately, this keeps us locked into a cycle of violence against ourselves. This will continually drain our energy and result in a much lower vibration level than is healthy for us.

It is important to know that, when we make mistakes in the past, we have the opportunity to make different choices in the present. This does not mean that we do not make amends for our wrongdoings. We do, but then we must let go of them. If we choose to hang onto them, we are in danger of recreating them in the future. Letting go requires forgiving ourselves and others because forgiveness is what ultimately releases us from our past. Forgiveness (for give) is for you to give to yourself. It has nothing to do with the person that you are forgiving; it is completely and utterly for you. Forgiveness is freedom, liberating us to vibrate at much higher levels of peace and joy.

FIVE STEPS TO FORGIVENESS

1. Awareness. Becoming aware or conscious that forgiveness is freedom and that, to be free, you must forgive yourself, and then others.

2. Release. Release all energy necessary for you to forgive. Even if at this point you cannot forgive yourself or another, you can ask your spirit and Creator to assist you in releasing any energy that keeps you tied to the past.

3. Learn. Learn from your experience. Once you begin to understand what the lesson is that you can take away from your experience, you begin to create forgiveness.

4. Allow. Allow yourself to have forgiveness. When you are able to acknowledge you deserve forgiveness, then you allow yourself to have it for you, and then for another.

5. Be. Be forgiveness. Once you can completely forgive yourself, you can then be forgiving of others and you can ultimately be free.

For a guided practice of how to forgive for good, read the new book, Spirit Led Instead: The Little Tool Book of Limitless Transformation

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Spirit Led Heart We begin on the visionary path by choosing love. What is it that you love? What is the one thing you would do just for the sake of doing it? For me, it has always been teaching others. When I was six years old, I would pretend with my neighborhood friends that I was the teacher and they were my students. I loved helping my friends discover the joy in learning. This came absolutely naturally to me—no one told me to play this way.

What we love is what we play. We often did this as a child, and if we are spirit led, we are still doing it now. Joseph Campbell said, “Follow your bliss.” He was not talking about ego gratification, but that deep love that is within us. No one can tell us what it is; we just know it. It is a resonance that comes from our spirit.

The tool I’m about to show you allows you to explore what makes your heart sing. If your heart is the window, your spirit is the door. Your heart can lead you to your spirit, and your spirit will open the door to your vision.

Close your eyes and place your hand on your heart. Take a few deep breaths, inhaling deeply into your heart. Then, ask yourself, What would make my heart sing? Remember to keep it simple. Your heart will lead you to what your spirit knows to be true. If you are having a hard time, remember some of the things you loved as a child.

Write down at least ten things that make your heart sing. These are the things you absolutely love, from the small things to the big ones. They do not need to have any logical reason why you love them. In fact, it is much better if they don’t—then you know your mind is not involved in this process.

Now, pick one thing to do today. This is how you let your heart lead you to your spirit’s vision—one joyful experience at a time.

 

Read more, get the new book, Spirit Led Instead: The Little Tool Book of Limitless Transformation

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Practical Spirituality“Are you out of your mind?” I often say this at the beginning of my seminars. Most people laugh because they think of this as a “bad” thing; no one wants to appear crazy. Yet, exiting the mind is a prerequisite to being spirit led. This can be a difficult task without the right tools. How often do you experience monkey-mind—where you can’t stop your thoughts; they just keep spinning round and round in your head? Well, for most of us, this is a common daily occurrence. If you have driven your car from one place to another and can’t remember the journey, you have been experiencing monkey-mind. Imagine what you may be missing while you’re driving to your destination, not to mention your entire life’s journey. Learning to still your mind leads to a more focused, productive, and joyous day, but most importantly, it leads to spirit.

Sherry, one of my Spirit Coaching clients, was constantly thinking—thinking about her to-do list, her children, her job, her futureFrom the moment she woke up to the moment she went to bed, Sherry was thinking. As you can imagine, this made going to sleep rather difficult. Sherry couldn’t stop her mind from racing, and this kept her awake night after night. She began to practice a tool I taught her where she would stop and take a minute to visualize a ball of golden light expanding in the center of her head, pushing out all of her thoughts. She did this technique before going to bed and found that it calmed her down and she was able to relax enough to fall asleep. This helped her get much-needed sleep and made her days better. Based on the great results she was getting by using this tool before bed, Sherry started to use it during the day when she felt scattered. She noticed that she became more relaxed, peaceful, and productive during her day. She later told me, “It is amazing what gets done when you are out of your mind.”

This is the first transformational tool I taught Sherry and the first one I would like to share with you.

TRANSFORMATIONAL TOOL #1: QUIET YOUR MIND

1. Imagine a small golden ball of healing light, about the size of a quarter, in the center of your head. You can visualize this or just simply feel the healing light in your head expanding.

2. Let the golden light slowly grow until it fills your entire skull, with the intention of pushing out all of your thoughts.

3. Imagine the light glowing brightly and expanding slightly beyond your physical head, keeping your focus on the golden light for one minute or more.

You can use this tool anywhere. It takes one minute or less and can help you begin the process of exiting your mind. The next time you are aware you are no longer present, take a moment to use this tool.

Repeat this process as needed. You will be amazed at the peace that comes from a still mind, not to mention other profound benefits.

From the new book, Spirit Led Instead: The Little Tool Book of Limitless Transformation

Get your free chapter at SpiritLedInstead.com

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