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UnseenRealmsDon’t neglect what you can’t see. There is a huge untapped resource of Divine inspiration, joy, love, creative genius…and the list goes on in the unseen realms. Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Your potential is only limited by your inability to recognize you are so much more than you “think”. When we open up to the world beyond the limits of our minds, we begin to see the infinite resources available to us. Take the time to believe in this innate part of you that is connected to something larger. Whatever you call this Divine input is irrelevant. It is just important that you call on it regularly.

1. Ask. Ask for it. If we do not ask, we will not receive. Practice asking early in the morning or before you go to bed at night, then, listen for the nudges of spirit and move in that direction.

2. Pray. Pray to a higher power. This opens you up to that force which makes the planets spin. Prayer is consciously opening your mind to receive this Divine inspiration.

3. Meditate. Meditation brings us out of the limited mind and into our spirits. This is where our greatness dwells. Meditate consistently and you will open up your intuition, the voice of spirit.

4. Journal. Allow Divine inspiration to flow through you and onto your paper. Open up to receive the words you most need to hear. This type of journaling is not written with your mind, but rather you must be out of your mind to receive this.

5. Breathe. Focus on your breath. Tune into the life force that breathes you. Connect to this something larger through the vehicle of your breath.

Natalie & Her SonAs parents on a spiritual path, integrity with ourselves often becomes an issue; strong social programs insist that we sacrifice ourselves for our loved ones. However, when we finally make the decision to put ourselves at the center of our lives, our loved ones learn that they are also worthy of receiving everything they want and need. When we consciously intend to open more and more to the infinite support of Source, they learn that we’re never alone during our time on Earth; help is always there, if we just ask. Opening to this support from Creator lifts a heavy burden from both parent and child, leaving far more room to co-create a joyful relationship. What a relief!

The following are some of the tools I’ve found most effective in my journey of conscious parenting:

1.  Ask, ask, ask. Make a practice of asking for divine guidance and support, both for yourself and with your children. Understanding that divine help is literally there for the asking has been vital to my ability to take some extremely challenging steps in the past few years and emerge with my sanity intact. I come from a fiercely independent Puritan lineage, so it was a major breakthrough for me to realize that I could ask God for help and actually receive healing and guidance in return. Similarly, while my relationship with my guides is still an area of growth, it’s one I’m committed to; I ask for guidance for myself each morning as a way to co-create my day, and I pray with my son before bed to set a high-vibrational space for both of us during dreamtime. I also remind my son that he has “angels” who are there to help him, so he knows he doesn’t have to feel that he’s alone in life. I know that my commitment to asking in this way for myself will help my son maintain his own connection as he grows older.

2.  Use intention to create the highest and best experience for you and your family. Ask most parents what their greatest desire is for their children, and they’ll say, “I want them to be happy.” When we ask ourselves what “happiness” means to us, the answer often emerges in the form of qualities such as peace, joy, and fulfillment. When we work with intention, we are working at the level of energy to align our experience with the qualities that represent our highest and best good. It’s a great practice to write down an intention each morning after meditation; it brings who you’re being into alignment with your spirit’s intentions and relieves you from the need to control how it happens. Whew!

3.  Cultivate presence. For many families, “quality time” is an elusive goal that gets lost in the chaos of a busy life. What is the missing ingredient that marks the difference between so-called “quality” time and the kind of rushing around that leaves us feeling disconnected? It’s one of the simplest tools we use in Spirit Coaching, but it can also be one of the most difficult to master: presence, or grounding. In Spirit Coaching, grounding is one of the first tools we teach, because we recognize that without grounding, the other 45+ tools in the workbook are much less effective. It’s emphasized with every meditation and exercise, because coaches know from their own experience that it takes constant practice before grounding starts to feel easy and natural. What a payoff, though – after practicing this tool consistently for over 7 years, I can honestly say that most of the time I spend with my son feels like quality time, simply because I am so much more present.

My journey of being Spirit Led Instead has led to a much more joyful experience, not only of being a parent, but of being alive. I look back now on my decision to undertake coaching myself as a turning point, not only in my own life, but in my lineage through my healing relationship with my son. Although the path of conscious parenting may feel like a slog sometimes, the view is always worth it.

 

Natalie Doel is a Master Certified Spirit Coach® and parent who brings warmth, humor, and a deep commitment to her own growth in service of her clients’ empowerment. For more information about Natalie, go to http://www.spiritcoachtraining.com/natalie-doel/

House
Our homes are our sacred space, but sometimes they just don’t feel that way. Making our homes feel good can happen with the right intention and the right tools. Here are some suggestions for blessing your house and turning it into your own healing sanctuary.

1. First take a few moments to center yourself. You can meditate or breathe deeply into your heart or even visualize yourself feeling your best. For a free guided meditation on how to get yourself Centered, Clear, and Connected go to http://www.spiritcoachtraining.com/5-minutes-to-freedom-and-fulfillment/.

2. Visualize the protection of a bubble of gold light around yourself before you begin.

3. Place something sacred to you (i.e. cornmeal, sage, flour, holy water, a crystal, etc.) at the four corners of your property with a blessing of the Creator. Use an X pattern when walking to the corners rather than a square around the perimeter. This will give any discordant energies a chance to leave, rather than get trapped. The blessing says the land is now in accordance with the Creator, and the effect is that any non-aligned energies must move up and out of that space. You can imagine sinking a column of Creator light in each corner of your home. Then place a column in the center of the house to act as a grounding cord. Imagine this grounding cord connecting to the center of the earth.

4. Go from room to room with some burning sage or incense or a Tibetan bowl or chime. Smudge or chime with the intention of bringing the house now in accordance with the Creator and moving out any non-aligned energies. Start from the least effected room and work your way to the most effected.

5. Imagine a guardian to protect your property, watch over it, and continually bless your home and its inhabitants (i.e., bring in an ally of the Creator: a guardian guide, an angel, a color, a symbol, etc.).

6. Set your Intentions for the house in the center, that is, the qualities you would like to be present in your home every day. For example, my Intention is for my home to be a loving, peaceful, harmonious sanctuary of healing and creativity. State your intention out loud. Tune into the color(s) that hold this healing vibration for your home. Imagine these beautiful colors filling your home. Any time you would like to reset your intention for your home, you can imagine these colors radiating throughout your home.

7. Speak out loud your house blessing or prayer.

Suggestion for a House Blessing Prayer or better yet, create your own:

Creator, we are thankful for all the love you share, which heals us and heals those who have gone before us.

Shine your divine light upon this home and those who dwell within its walls.

Allow it to be a place where friendship, joy, and generosity (or add your own to match your Intentions) can prosper.

May all those who enter here feel your loving presence and be at peace.

And so it is.

Vision BoardEvery year, I sit down and create a vision board for my year. Vision Boards contain images of all the things you would like to manifest this year. Instead of just randomly picking images that appeal to me out of various magazines, I do my Vision Board a little differently. My mind has all kinds of ideas about what my life should look like, but it really doesn’t know what will truly fulfill me on a heart and soul level. So when I am visioning, I let my spirit be my guide. It always leads me to my highest and best path. If you take a risk and are willing to get out of your mind, you will find it is there your greatest life experience awaits you. Here is how you create a Vision Board from spirit.

1. Get a stack of magazines, a whiteboard, a pair of scissors and some glue stick.

2. Then, get out of your mind. First take a few moments to center yourself. You can meditate, breathe deeply into your heart, or even visualize yourself feeling your best. For a free guided meditation on how to get yourself Centered, Clear, and Connected go to http://www.spiritcoachtraining.com/5-minutes-to-freedom-and-fulfillment/.

3. Layout your magazines and imagine which one is lighting up. This is the magazine your spirit is guiding you to pick up. Use your intuition, the voice of spirit, as it will guide you.

4. Before you open the magazine, close your eyes and see a page number appear. This is coming from your spirit’s guidance. Open the magazine to that page number.

5. Once you are on the correct page, see the image or words light up that you are supposed to cut out for your Vision Board. Even if you don’t yet understand what the image means to you or what the words convey about your future life, allow yourself to claim it. Over time, it will become clear to you. This is stretching you beyond your limits, and it will lead to a limitless life.

6. Repeat this process until you have enough images that you feel complete. Again, let your spirit guide you.

7. Glue them on your board, letting your intuition be your guide as to how to collage the images.

8. Hang your Vision Board somewhere you can see it. This brings awareness into your day-to-day experience about what you are creating.

I am always amazed at how accurate my spirit is about what I am creating in my life. This process will help you tune into what is most aligned for you and manifest it with ease and grace. Take the time to let your spirit lead you to your highest and best life experience.

 

 

waitJust because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Sometimes we have boundless energy so we do all sorts of things that maybe aren’t aligned for us. Then, we are exhausted and don’t know why. Energy begets energy. So when we choose the things that are aligned for us and do them more energy and alignment enters our lives. We feel good, healthy in body, mind and spirit. We also know when to let go, say no and open to the possibility that there is something else aligned for us and if we wait for it, it will show up. Stop all the doing and start being. You will find what is aligned will come towards you rather than you chasing it.

BreatheInLoveTake your hands right now and place them on your heart. Now, breathe into your hands and heart. Feel the depth of your breath. Notice how your chest expands and contracts. Think of someone you love unconditionally, perhaps a child or a pet. Focus your feeling of love into your breath. Feel it filling your chest with love. And repeat several times. As you practice this you return to your natural state of love that is you. This is who you are and who you want to be. When life gets stressful take a moment to connect in this way. You will always have a better day when you are willing to stop and breathe in love.

HumilityFeeling good about our selves is critical. It can make the difference between achieving a dream and not. There is, however, a way we can gloat or become so self-assured from an ego perspective that we move away from our service in the world. Many a leader, actor, politician and even spiritual teacher has fallen from grace because they, too, have become “full of themselves”. That is to say, they have lost the ability to be humble and have let the ego run the show. As we progress in our ability to serve others, we must also progress in our ability to become humble. Humble does not mean we stop revering our Self – we just stop revering the ego and understand it is our spirit that we revere. This allows us to revere the spirit in others and everyone is equal from this stance. It is from here our greatness is born and we can serve in our highest capacity.

namaste1The “Namaste” we greet each other with in yoga is an acknowledgement of presence. It literally translates into the Divine in me greets the Divine in you. This presence is what makes us centered and balanced. Without this connection to the Divine in us we are aimlessly trying to find our center through the external world. When we learn to hold this state of equilibrium, it also brings our world into balance. Claim this part of you. Hold it and when you lose it, bring yourself back. This is the way through life that brings the most, peace, ease and grace. As you bring more presence to the world, the world gives you more aligned experiences.

truthNot being able to express our selves can become a habit. We all have our reasons why we swallow our words, say things we don’t mean and hide our truth. But ultimately this pattern doesn’t serve us. It keeps us locked into a cycle of broken relationships or missed opportunities or not truly giving the gifts we came here to give. Learning to express our selves takes practice. For most of us it doesn’t come easy because we have learned behaviors that over time make it difficult. But like anything else, we can unlearn these patterns that don’t serve us. We can start by examining how we feel about things. Journaling our thoughts and feeling gives voice to our deepest truths. Once we write them down, it becomes so much easier to express our selves out loud. Taking the time to really listen to our selves and then to say what truth needs to be said, gives us the voice to heal relationships, contribute to conversations and to give the gifts that only we can give.

Just BreatheWhat does it mean to just be? It is bringing all your attention into the present moment where you can allow yourself to let go of all the things that drive you into action and just breathe. Being is akin to our breath. Most of us take 28,800 breaths per day and aren’t aware of any of them. Thankfully, there is a power greater than us that is breathing us, otherwise, we would be in big trouble. When we learn how to be, we can breathe deeply and consciously again. The fruits of this are many. Our health benefits greatly from this practice and our mind benefits greatly from this practice. Learning to be, gives us clarity. This clarity is created by a stillness inside of us. There is no other way to gain this stillness except by learning to be. This leads to creativity, genius and our authentic selves. When we learn to be, we also learn how to be the person we came here to be. Now, I can’t think of a better benefit than this.

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