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Pink Clouds at John of GodThere is a sweetness in your heart that expands and contracts with every breath. Expansion comes when we let go and allow; contraction comes when we control and shut down. The heart is both a vehicle for contraction and expansion. It can take us to new heights and to new lows. When the heart is guided by spirit it can soar into its natural expansive state of joy. When, however, it is guided by ego, it guards, it limits and it loves based on false hope. Let your heart soar by letting spirit lead.

intention_paintingMany of us create New Year’s resolutions or goals but I set intentions for the year. I have found that many a goal or resolution has gone unmet because I did not take the time to set my intentions first. At the beginning of every year, I sit down, get centered, clear and connected and receive my intentions for the year. Why is this important? Intentions are what directs our thoughts and actions so if I am not clear on what these are, I will not be clear in my thought and actions and thus, the results I get will not be the ones I want.

How do you set your intentions? The first step is your intentions must not come from your mind, but rather, your spirit. The highest, wisest part of you that knows why you are here and what you truly want to accomplish this year. One of the tools I use to get out of my mind is meditation. Your goal is to move out of your mind so you can access your most aligned intentions for 2014.

The next step is to receive your intention symbolically. That’s right, you will receive a symbol not a word or a phrase but an image. This allows you to bypass your mental framework by accessing your spirit’s description of your intention through the symbol you are being shown. Once you see the symbol, only then, do you ask your spirit what it means. For example, last year, I saw a bright golden sun. When I felt into this symbol, my heart began to feel warm and glowing. When I began to translate my symbol into words, the words that came out were, “My intention is to radiate love from my heart, glowing from within”. This is how you receive your intentions for 2014; you see a symbol and then, you translate that symbol into words.

I find most people have between three and eight intentions for the year. Let your intuition, the voice of your spirit, be your guide as to how many intentions you have. Then, receive your symbols, translate them into words and you have your intentions for the year. I also recommend finding images that match your intentions, writing them out and placing them somewhere you can see them every day.

What happens when we take the time to set our intentions is our thoughts, words and actions, result in exactly what we are meant to experience this year. This is how we live an inspired (in + spirit) and fulfilling year.

Six Simple Steps To Set Your Intentions for 2014

1. Meditate. Practice The Three C’s: Centered, Clear & Connected. You can receive a guided five-minute meditation for free at http://www.spiritcoachtraining.com/blog/5-minute-meditation. Use this guided meditation or do your own meditation; this is the single best way to access your spirit’s intentions. The goal is to get out of your mind and connect to your spirit before you begin this process.

2. Imagine a white screen in front of you. On that screen see, know or hear a number appear between three and eight. This is the number of intentions you have for 2014.

3. On the blank, white screen see a symbol appear. This represents your first intention for 2014. Observe the image. What does it feel like? What are the words that come to you? Write these down. Repeat this process for the number of intentions you have for the year.

4. Write your Intention Statement for each symbol. Start with the phrase, “My intention is to be…” then, finish the statement with the words that resonate for you. For example, if you saw a symbol of a dark circle being enveloped by the light, your Intention Statement might be: “My Intention is to be the light, always coming from the light in all my words, deeds and actions.”

5. Next, find images that match the symbols you received for each Intention. The images do not need to be the exact symbols you saw but must evoke the feelings you felt from the symbol you saw. Then, add your Intention Statement next to each image.

6. Write up your Intentions for 2014 and pair them with the beautiful images that you selected. Put this somewhere you can see it everyday. This will guide you to your highest and best 2014.

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Best Spiritual AdviceThe Best Spiritual Advice I Ever Received


As a spiritual author, coach, and seminar leader, people often ask me, “What is the best spiritual advice you ever received?” This article is an amalgamation of the top ten things I would share with someone who asks that question. Of course, timing is everything. Something is only relevant to you if you are ready to hear it and it is applicable to you at this stage of your particular spiritual journey. That said, we all know that knowledge must always be measured against our own truth; our inner knowing will guide us as to whether something is relevant for us or not. So, let’s get started. Let your intuition be your guide as to which of the following ten items you need to hear now. Then, integrate that knowledge into your life; this, in turn, becomes wisdom – yours, because you experienced it. This leads us to the first item of the best spiritual advice I have ever received.

1. Spiritual growth is not an intellectual exercise. We can’t think our way to enlightenment. Words don’t transform us, but experience does. No matter how many spiritual books we read, seminars we take, or spiritual teachers we frequent, we will not transform unless we apply the spiritual principles, tools, and teaching in our own life. There is no magic pill or spontaneous enlightenment; we must do the work. That said, we can start wherever we are by choosing one spiritual practice to focus on each day. That is why it is called a practice; we have to practice it. Allow yourself to be transformed today.

2. Be present for your life. The gift is in the present. Most of us are so fixated on the future that we miss the moment. Everything you want is here, in the now. It’s not in the future. If you don’t learn to be present now, when you get to where you want to be at some point in the future, you won’t be able to enjoy it because you will not be present for it. Trust me, I did this. Learning to be present will transform your life; there is so much happening in the now that if you stop and pay attention, you will find yourself.

3. A spiritual practice will transform your life. If you haven’t figured out that a consistent daily spiritual practice brings more peace, joy, abundance, and most-important, Spirit into your life, you are missing a key spiritual principle. When I made a commitment to a daily meditation practice, one year later, my life was completely transformed. I began living my purpose, met my life partner, and touched an inner joy that could not be disturbed by anything external. How we transform is from the inside out, not the outside in. A spiritual practice transforms you and supports you through the ups and downs of life.

4. If you can’t find God, you moved. God isn’t somewhere else; it is in you. You don’t need to search and seek for God. You just need to be quiet and still and go within. What you will find is that God dwells within you. It is from here that you will find your way home.

5. Life is a schoolroom; we are here to learn. There are no mistakes, only lessons. When we recognize the learning in a mistake and take responsibility for it, we will not make it again. There is nothing to feel “bad” or guilty about, but rather to understand that we were doing the best we could at the time. The point is to learn from our mistakes so we do not make them again. We are here in this great classroom called life to learn, to grow, and to become who we were always meant to be.

6. Forgiveness will set you free. Forgiveness is the great elixir of all time. In every spiritual tradition, it is taught as one of the most transformative powers of change and healing. Forgiveness is a vibrational frequency that allows us to shift out of patterns of shame, guilt, hatred, and anger. It even gives us pause to love better and, ultimately, live better. To practice forgiveness, we must begin to allow the possibility of letting go of what does not serve us. Letting go is the key. In Hebrew, the word “forgiveness” means to literally drop it—to drop whatever burdens we are carrying sets us free. Just simply contemplate the possibility of forgiving yourself; this is a step toward your freedom.

7. Your beliefs will prove you right. Most people understand a belief as a fact, but a belief is a perception. It is nothing more than a concept that we decide is truth, and this is what ultimately directs our life. When we are unconscious about our beliefs, we don’t even realize we are choosing to see the world through a particular perception. In other words, if you want to change your experiences, then change your beliefs. What we believe determines what is possible.

8. Be out of your mind. Forget what has been told to you for millennia, that the mind knows, for it does not. It is merely a tool to direct the spirit’s guidance – yet, it was never meant to be the director. Confusion comes from putting too much emphasis on mind and not enough on Divine mind or spirit. When we leave the physical form, we realize this nature of reality. If we can grasp this understanding in the body, we can actualize what has been given to us. This means your path is one of listening to your spirit, deflecting the opinions of the mind, and then using it to carry out the actions condoned by Spirit. It is simple, and, at the same time, difficult to adhere to. The mind is filled with distractions, and the world mirrors this. Calming and relaxing the grasp of the mind is the way through. Imagine the spirit is pulling you by a rope and there is really only one direction to go. Let it pull you, despite the outlandish and sometimes seemingly logical ideas of the mind – this is the path.

9. The love you seek is your own. Learning to love yourself is the key to receiving the love you seek. Loving, nurturing, and compassionate are qualities that you possess and you can have for yourself. How would you feel if you gave yourself the same loving energy you share with those you love? This self-love is what will propel you into greener pastures, rather than our belief that external circumstances create our reality. They are only the after effect of our internal circumstances. Change your internal world with self-love and watch your external world blossom exponentially.

10. You are spirit having an in-body experience. Your spirit knows why you are here, what gifts you bring, and what you want to learn. Everything you could ever want can be had by connecting to this part of yourself that is infinite and beyond measure. As you align more and more with your spirit, your level of fulfillment, peace, and joy also rise. If you want from life what you came to get, being spirit-led is the way to get there. That said, once you connect to your spirit, you recognize that life is not about the destination, but the journey. Your spirit will lead you to your greatest contribution in this life.


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5 Steps to More Abundance In Your LifeIf you find that more money goes out than comes in, you may need to practice the Abundance Principles. These are five easy steps that will create more in-flow than out-flow of money in your life. Money is just energy, like everything else in the universe. The problem is we project so much onto it that it becomes weighted down and can’t flow. We experience this lack of flow as an energy drain, which results in not enough money. By practicing these simple steps, you not only can change your relationship to money, but use it as a tool to support you in your true service in the world.

1. Count Your Blessings. You have all heard the term, “Count your blessings,” but what does it really mean? One way to look at it is you are either focused on lack or on love. When we are focused on lack, there is never enough. What we need seems to be out of reach, no matter what it happens to be. We are always looking for the worst, the least, and this creates worry, stress, and fear. However, when we come from love, we recognize the infinite nature of the universe. We appreciate what we have and what we are given. We love what is in this very moment. We give love and receive love as if it is limitless, because it is. When we operate from love, there is no lack. Love then attracts more love. What is aligned for us comes to us with very little effort. Practicing coming from love is effortless because it is our natural internal state. When we practice this, we recognize so many blessings in our lives. Once we do, we just keep counting more and more blessings. One practice to help you count your blessings is to create an Abundance List. Fill a sheet of paper with all the reasons you are abundant. Start with the phrase, “I am abundant because…” Do it now; it feels so good.

2. Create Your Goals. What is money? Money is just an energy exchange for something else. You can’t just say I need more money; you need to know what is for. What is your goal? It’s not paying your bills; that is a task, not a goal. A goal is something that makes your heart sing when you think about it. Create a list of goals that inspire you. This will allow you to attract the money you need to achieve them and motivate you to take the aligned action steps toward your goals.

3. Give Before You Get. I always find when I am in service, my vibration naturally raises. When I am giving, I feel good. From this place, when I ask for what I need, it seems to come quite effortlessly. I always put my focus on giving first, and it always comes back to me tenfold. You can practice this by sending thoughts of healing to those you love and those in need. Do this daily before you ask the universe for what you want. You will find there is a reciprocal relationship between giving and receiving. Ask everyday how you can help others and many will be drawn to you.

4. Know Your Value. A Spiritual Asset is something we often don’t think about. We see our gifts as intangible, but what if they aren’t? By taking your spiritual gifts and giving them value, you start to understand how valuable you really are. Most of us take our gifts for granted. We believe if we can do something, so can anyone else; but no one has the gifts we have and delivers them in the way we do. Whether you have developed your intuition, have a compassionate heart, or can see another’s potential and help them cultivate it… you are in possession of some extremely valuable qualities. When we hold this knowingness in our energy field, we will attract the aligned people who we can serve and they will pay us for it. Create a list of your spiritual assets. Make the intangible, tangible.

5. Affirm Limitless Beliefs. One of my teachers once told me, “Your beliefs will prove you right.” What you believe will ultimately create what you experience. Examining your beliefs about abundance is key to shifting old patterns that leave you with less than what you want to experience in your life. Imagine if you could shift a limiting belief from, “I have to work hard to make money,” to “I make more money than I would ever need doing what I love.” I know it’s possible because I did it. You can, too. With the right tools and the right help, you can transform any pattern that isn’t serving you. You can begin by examining some of the limiting beliefs you are holding around money. Once you have identified which beliefs you would like to transform, you might work with a Certified Spirit Coach® to get the guidance and support you need to really change these deep-seeded patterns in your life. For more information, contact www.spiritcoachtraining.com.




Judgment is fear disguised as real. When we judge another, we are merely afraid of something. Judgment by itself serves no purpose. To condone another is not our place; each being has to walk their own path with God. Judgments are not rooted in truth. We cannot see the whole truth so who are we to judge. The question we can ask when judgment arises, is, what am I afraid of? When we can acknowledge and accept the feelings of fear we have within, not only does the fear dissipate, but so does the judgment, leaving us free and clear to enjoy life – free of judgment of self and others.

There is a love deep within you that is untouchable by anything external. It is like an ever-present well that continuously nourishes and replenishes you. In this place, you are whole and healed. Knowing that nothing outside of you can ever touch this place within. It is your sanctuary. Dwell in it. Develop your relationship with your Self for all other creations depend upon this.

Use this meditation below to fill your Self up:

  1. Visualize a beautiful rose quartz crystal cavern deep beneath the earth.
  2. Imaging this beautiful pink, white energy is flowing up out of the earth and into your feet.
  3. Watch the light as it flows into your legs and travels through every part of your body, filling you with this Divine energy, all the way up to your head.
  4. Allow yourself to feel the deep nurturance, love and revitalizing energy as it enters every cell.
  5. Call on this healing earth energy whenever you need it; allowing it to remind you of your natural state of love and wholeness.


Imagine what would happen if that constant nagging voice that says, “I should get more work done, I should clean the office, I should take that new client, I should…” went away. At the very least, it would create a lot more empty space in our heads. Perhaps, it is exactly the space that is needed to be more inventive, to create a new from a blank slate like an artist who approaches his clean white canvas on which to create his masterpiece. I think most of us have become so accustomed to the voices in our head that tell us what we should do that we have forgotten that we get to choose.

The shoulds are like a software program that just keeps running, eventually we forget why we were running them in the first place; they simply runs us. Even when a should may have initially been put in place for a positive result, it eventually can become a hindrance, instead of a help. For example, if you decided you wanted a new job and you “should” give work 120% on this new job but a year has gone by and you are still giving 120%, your should program is still running you, and as a result, you are caught in a lifestyle that is exhausting and unsustainable.

The first step in winning the battle of the “shoulds” is awareness. If we are not aware of the programs that run us, how can we stop them? It is similar to when we first learned to drive and we had to pay attention to every detail: our foot on the gas pedal, both hands on the wheel, our attention focused on the road ahead of us. Now, when we drive it is as if we are on autopilot; we no longer have to think about how to drive the vehicle, in fact, we often eat breakfast, talk on the phone and browse the newspaper, all while driving. The problem with this is if we stop paying attention, eventually we have an accident. An accident is a hard way to get a wake up call. What if we started paying attention like our life depends on it, because it does. If we just start paying attention to our life we begin to realize, we have a choice.

Life happens and at a certain point, we forget that we chose it. Every moment of every day, we choose. If we are running our life based on shoulds, it never feels like a choice. What if we replaced every I should with I choose. The first thing that happens when we do this is we now have a discernment tool. We can immediately tell by replacing I should with I choose if something is in alignment for us or not, that is, if the reason we are doing something is for someone else or if it is in our highest and best interest. Creating this type of discernment in your life will lead to more time, more energy and the ability to make better choices.

Another interesting thing that happens when you replace I should with I choose is you immediately become empowered. I should is disempowering, it drains us, takes our energy away where I choose takes the power back, you are owning it, taking responsibility for your choice and bringing 100% of your energy to it. It is the difference between someone telling you to do something and you choosing to do something, even if the person telling you to do it is yourself.

Once you begin to liberate yourself from I should, you begin to experience a new kind of freedom. A freedom to choose your life and this, after all, is what life is about.

Think of a time you were inspired, maybe you were dancing, writing, drawing or developing a new business venture. The ideas just flowed from you so effortlessly, it was as if you could just lay back and enjoy the creation you were participating in. You felt a deep resonance, your essence filling up with the knowing that this is exactly what you were supposed to be doing at this moment. We have all had this experience but how do we create a life filled with moments like this. This is being Spirit led.

There is a part of us, outside the mind that is free to imagine and realize our greatest vision.  We know it, when we are connected to it. I often would ask myself where the wisdom was coming from, when I would say the exact right thing at the moment I needed to say it or when that deep inner knowing led me to an unbelievable opportunity. This is our spirit shining through. Everyone is spirit, however, not everyone is spirit led. This has nothing do with religion and everything to do with God. When we access our spirit, we access the Divine in us. This is the place we want to live from. It is where everything we have been searching for is.

Many of us are familiar with the importance of the mind, body and Spirit connection. Yet most of us lead our lives from our mind and not from our Spirit. When we lead from the mind, we can’t create balance because we are not connected to our spirit, which brings us into alignment with Source. Without this connection, there is always a feeling that something is missing in our lives; no matter how much we achieve, have or do, there is still a feeling of being disconnected. The flow of Source energy is not reaching us. When we flip the triangle, Source flows to us and through us making co-creation possible.

mind body spirit triangle

When we lead with the Spirit, we are in alignment with our highest self and from this place the mind and body also become aligned. Source energy is able to flow as we express our true self in the world. We realize we are a co-creator, choosing to be and do what is in alignment for us, knowing we came to live the life we intended. There is nothing more fulfilling than this. This is the paradigm shift that is emerging individually and globally.

My whole life, people have been getting my name wrong. At face value this may seem like no big deal. However, when I was a child I would cringe every time, my new teacher would do role call because I knew my name would be mispronounced. In fact, it was the cause of much grief especially when I did not have the courage to correct people. Why would it bother me so much when I just let someone call me what they wanted to? Well, it wasn’t my name. This somehow put me out of integrity with myself. It had nothing to do with another getting my name wrong; this was an honest mistake. It had to do with me not saying anything and correcting them. The feeling I had when I did this was not a good one. We have all had this feeling for a number of reasons. It is an incongruence between what we know to be our truth and our ability to express it. For me it was my name, among other things. For you, it may be the times when you don’t value yourself enough to speak up, ask a question or share your contribution. It may be the times when you don’t share your dreams with another or even say them out loud to yourself.


I knew I conquered my fear of being “Jenai”, when I was a guest on The Rosie O’Donnell Show. We were taping live in front of thirty million people as if that in of itself wasn’t enough to terrify me. Rosie came out on stage and introduced me. She called me, “Jan-nay”. There was that initial moment of being uncomfortable I had resonated with my entire life but something in me had changed. I couldn’t even let someone like Rosie O’Donnell get my name wrong.


“Rosie,” I said, strong and steady, “my name is Jenai.” I have to say she looked shocked, not expecting me to say that. Of course, it was not part of the script and we were live, on-air. She made a joke about her mistake, recovering gracefully and asked me where my name came from. I told her my parents were hippies. This became another source of humor and the whole exchange added another dimension to the show. This happened because I was willing to speak my truth.


It was a great lesson for me to be who I am and make no apologies for it. Given that who we are is evolving as we get to know our true self in deeper and deeper ways, we can only practice expressing our truth, as we know it in this moment. This is an excellent practice. It allows us to draw towards us the people, places and opportunities that resonate with our truth. This creates an aligned and fulfilling life experience.

Are you Spirit Led?

Give yourself one point for each yes, o points for each no & ½ a point for each maybe

1.     Do you practice quieting your mind?

2.     Do you acknowledge you are more than your physical mind & body?

3.     Do you recognize the benefit of living beyond what your mind tells you?

4.     Do you consciously use your intuition?

5.     Do you see yourself as a spiritual being having a human experience?

6.     Do you acknowledge your higher self or God or Creator?

7.     Do you ask your higher self or God or Creator for help?

8.     Do you listen to the answers?

9.     Do you trust the answers enough to act on them?




Give yourself one point for each yes, o points for each no, ½ point for each maybe

0-2 points = Definitely not Spirit Led but still a spirit even if you do not know it yet

3-5 points = Awakening to becoming Spirit Led

6-8 points = Practicing living a Spirit Led life

9 points = A conscious co-creator living a Spirit Led life

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