We have a choice in every moment to see the glass half full or half empty; it is always our choice. When we exercise our right to be grateful, all that we cherish emerges true and unblemished, and all that does not serve us, fades away. Gratitude gives us a way of being in the world that is fundamentally positive, and this is the momentum that leads us to actualizing our vision in the world. Did you ever meet a visionary who was not grateful? Visionaries are inherently grateful, as they know their vision is part of a co-creation with spirit and without this connection, spirit-led vision is not possible.

As a coach, one of the most common predicaments I run into is people having a hard time appreciating themselves. No matter how much “success” they have had, there is still some part of them that believes they are not good enough. One of the keys to transforming this is practicing gratitude towards self. I developed this tool to assist my clients in not only learning to feel better about themselves, but to begin to embrace self-love.

How to Do a Gratitude List with a Twist:


1. Take a medium-sized journal and title it “Gratitude Journal.”

2. Then fill an entire page every day with kind, compassionate, loving, and, most important, truthful words about all the things you love and appreciate in your life. You may need to start with the basics, depending on how you feel. There is always something to appreciate. I always appreciate that I can walk, knowing there are others who can’t.

3. Then work your way up to what you love and appreciate about yourself. Your gratitude can begin with the small stuff and build to the bigger stuff—you.  However, if you feel like jumping right into the big stuff, then go ahead. Over time, you will find that you become so much more appreciate of everything. This, in turn, creates a backlash effect where others begin to appreciate you. Since the world is a mirror, we change it by changing ourselves. Eventually, we will be able to focus on loving and appreciating ourselves, both on the list and off. This will help us to embody more fully who we are as spirit.

For example:

What I am grateful for…

I am grateful for the air I am breathing, I am grateful for my legs that carry me places, I am grateful for the trees and the sound of the birds, I am grateful for the home I live in & the garden outside my window blossoming with fresh vegetables waiting to be picked, I am grateful for my family, their health and well-being, I am grateful for my puppy who makes me smile no matter what mood I am in, I am grateful for listening to my inner guidance, I am grateful for being spirit led, I am grateful for the wisdom that flows through me, I am grateful for my kind heart, I am grateful for taking the time to work on myself…

Your Gratitude List may begin with all the reasons why you are grateful, like your family, your job, the clean air, or the food on your table, but it needs to end with what you love and appreciate about you. The reason you want to direct it at yourself is because as you do, you begin to value yourself more and more. This will eventually lead to self-love, and there is nothing you cannot be, do, and have when you love yourself. This is not ego love I’m talking about. It is recognizing that your spirit is love. All the love that you have been seeking externally can be found in your connection to your spirit.

Laying the groundwork for a New Year is much like cleaning a window. As you wipe away the dirt and grime that has accumulated over the year, you can clearly see a new vision of what is possible for your life. This process really requires only two steps. The first is letting go of the old; in essence, cleaning up any messes in your life. This may include cleaning out the office or apologizing to a friend. These are the things that drain your energy. You don’t want to bring these “drains” into the New Year. Take some time to clean them up. Now you have room for your new vision. This is your second step – to sit down and quiet the mind, and allow the possibilities to emerge about what you woul

d like to create in 2012. Let your spirit lead you there. What you find may surprise you. This is a good thing, as you know it not mind-based. Recognize that by taking the time to do this you will be creating something new, different and more aligned with your authentic self. This will feed you on a heart and soul level. Someone once said, “You can live 99 years or you can live 1 year 99 times.” Break out of the old patterns and really live as if it is a NEW year.

Step One: Clean Up Energy Drains

Make a list of anything that is currently draining your energy. One-by-one you can check off each item on the list as you complete them. If you find you need to release anger, resentment, frustration, sadness… write it down on a piece of paper. Then, ask Creator to transform this negative energy to love as you burn the paper. Let yourself be free of anything that will drain you as you embark on your NEW Year.

Step Two: Create Your New Vision

Let yourself get Centered, Clear & Connected. You can use the free 5-minutes guided meditation at Then, let your spirit lead you to your vision for 2012. Create a list of what you receive. This may include symbols, words, ideas and qualities – write them all down. Make sure you include all areas of your life: spiritual, relationship, play, business, health, financial, service…the whole enchilada! You will be amazed when you look back on your year, and realize how much has come true. Writing down your vision is one of the keys to achieving it.

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