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Enjoy this one-minute meditation from Cathedral Rock Vortex in Sedona. This is one of my favorite places on the planet. Let this sacred energy wash over you, restoring you and illuminating the Divine in you.

Out of Your Mind

1. Meditate. Practice The Three C’s to become Centered, Clear & Connected. This is the single best way to access your spirit’s vision.

2. Sleep with a pen and paper by your bed. When you wake up, don’t start thinking about your day right away, just let yourself be in that sweet spot between sleeping and waking—it is here your vision is. You can also ask a question before going to bed, such as: How can I contribute in this world?

3. Take “Be Time”. This is time for just being with no agenda. This clears your mind and allows your creativity to flourish.

4. After meditating, ask yourself, “What do I need to know about my vision?” Journal to record whatever comes through. You will be amazed at the ideas and guidance you can receive just by asking.

5. Follow your bliss. Make a commitment to do one thing you love to do every day. When we do what we love, even in small, seemingly insignificant ways, we are moving towards our vision.

Take a moment to remember when you walked through your fear and did something you always wanted to do. How did you feel? If the answer is anything more than great, then take a step toward your vision and dreams today. You will thank yourself later.

Take a moment to connect to the healing power and presence of the healing energy coming from this Sedona Vortex. Drink it in and let it fill you with grace for your day.

Learn how to create more “Be Time” for yourself. Giving yourself permission to unplug from everything, even the ones you love, for a short period of time, is nothing less than renewing. It helps you notice where you have been and where you would like to go. It lets you become connected again to the spirit that lives within—you know, that small subtle voice that we often ignore. When you are connected to spirit, it is impossible to ignore. This is the beauty, because when you start listening to that voice, your world blooms with colorful ideas of how to live better. Like a spring garden, the possibilities are born again.

 Learning To PauseLearning to pause is the antidote to many things in one’s life that usually end in a place where we do not want to be. So often our auto-responses react to a situation in a way that creates emotional turmoil for ourselves and for others, not to mention real life consequences. Sometimes we wish we could have a “do over” but that do over just doesn’t come so we are left with regret or remorse and the inability to change things. This whole pattern could be shifted with just one small act—to pause before we speak, react and take any action. A pause is like a window in time opening, where we can move out of old patterns and automatic responses just by stopping and doing nothing. This pause gives us the space to, perhaps, make a different choice than the one we have always made. It gives us the time and space to play out the consequences of our actions. When we pause, we stop to contemplate what it is we really mean, what it is that is really important to us and how to best convey this. Even in the heat of anger, a pause can give us a momentary reprieve from whatever emotion is running us and allow us to open up to a more aligned choice for ourselves. Pause before you speak and act, this moment of reflection will save you a lifetime of heartaches.

It's Not About PerfectionStop measuring yourself on being perfect as this will most likely never come. We came here to learn in this great schoolroom called life. So, if life is about learning, it is not about perfecting, and it is about correcting. There are three simple truths that can give you more energy, more tenacity and awaken your divinity. They are:

1. Who you are and what you do are two different things. Who you are is love. This love is perfect and it is innate in you. As you travel the life experience and remember this truth, you will stop letting what you do (or don’t do) define who you are. Nothing you have done, didn’t do or will ever do will impact who you are.

2. Life is one big classroom where we all came to learn. Learning requires making mistakes; otherwise there is no learning if we already know how to do it all. We came here to learn (period). How we learn is by correcting what isn’t working. Life is then a series of corrections. As we walk our path, and then step off, we just need a little course correction and we are back on path. Resistance is created when we start to believe that we have to be perfect. We don’t. We only need to be willing to correct our mistakes. Relax, allow and enjoy the journey. Creating resistance to our mistakes only happens when we feel bad about them. Learn, let go and move on.

3. You always know. Yes, the big “I”, the spirit in you knows the way. You are never without a compass and that compass is the voice of your spirit. Sometimes the ego is louder—let’s face it, most of the time but this is not who you are. When we get quiet and listen, the answers will come. We chose this journey to learn. There is a part of us who is wise, infinite and full of divinity. This part can help us find the perfection in every correction that we ever make. Trust your Self and you will accomplish what you came here to.

 

115I remember my thirtieth birthday; I was a wreck. I could barely hold back the tears as I was getting ready to attend a small gathering of friends being held in my honor. I didn’t know how I could show up at the party like this, so sad and depressed while everyone was “happily” wishing me a happy birthday. All I kept thinking was this was not how I wanted my life to be at thirty! It was not the picture I had imagined. I felt disappointed, angry, and certainly not in the mood to celebrate.

It was a good twenty-minute drive to where the party was being held, and I needed a miracle to arrive there in a better place than I currently was in. I decided to spend the entire twenty-minute journey saying out loud all the things I was grateful for. It started out quite basic, like, I am grateful for the car I am driving that gets me from point A to point B. I am grateful for the air I am breathing. Gradually, it became more about my great health, my creativity, my ability to learn and grow. Ten minutes in, I was feeling like a completely different person. By the time I arrived, I felt completely blessed that I had the good fortune to live the life I was living. And I walked into the party ready to celebrate, but not before I thanked God for gratitude.

Gratitude is a natural state when we are being spirit led. The mind, however, will tell us otherwise. This is why when we embark on the path of spirit; practicing gratitude is central to getting our minds on board. With gratitude, there is an understanding that challenges are blessings, that failures are gifts, and that our teachers come in many forms. In the grace of gratitude, we become who we were always meant to be.

We have a choice in every moment to see the glass half full or half empty; it is always our choice. When we exercise our right to be grateful, all that we cherish emerges true and unblemished, and all that does not serve us fades away. Gratitude gives us a way of being in the world that is fundamentally positive, and this is the momentum that leads us to actualizing our vision in the world. Did you ever meet a visionary who was not grateful? Visionaries are inherently grateful, as they know their vision is part of  a co-creation with spirit and without this connection spirit-led vision is not possible.

 

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Energy Drains to GiversI have a client, Phil, who finds himself waiting for his wife on a regular basis. This is a constant energy drain for him. He is a stickler for being on time, and it annoys and frustrates him that his wife makes him late. On one such occasion, Phil and his wife were taking their three boys to Phil’s parents’ house and escaping for a much-needed weekend away. Their first destination was massages for two; Phil thought this would be a wonderful way to decompress from their stressful lives. Phil had gotten all three kids in the car, which is no small feat, and was again waiting for his wife, who was still in the house. His body began to tense up as he imagined each minute ticking by was another minute of the massage he was missing. He found himself getting angrier and angrier, allowing his mind to imagine every time he had ever waited for his wife. Suddenly, he was losing hours, days, and weeks off his life when he could have been doing something positive, like relaxing. By the time Phil and his wife got to the massage appointment, Phil’s body was holding so much tension that it would take three days of constant massage to get him back to where he was before he began experiencing this particular energy drain.

Now, Phil believed the solution was to fix his wife from being late, but I bet if this were achieved, Phil would still find something else in which to get tense about. Let’s face it, many things happen in life that are out of our control and the only choice we have is how we decide to respond to them.

After a few coaching sessions, Phil realized he couldn’t change his wife but he could change himself. He decided to focus on the way he reacted to waiting for his wife. Phil’s initial concern was all the time he had lost in which he could have been doing something positive. Instead of using the time to get tense, angry, and frustrated, he decided he would use the extra time to relax. So, he began meditating whenever he found himself in a situation where he was waiting for his wife. He specifically focused on using the tools I had taught him, Centering, Clearing, and Connecting.

These few minutes spent practicing The Three Cs became an energy giver instead of the energy drain that was happening when he was fixated on his wife making him late. It was like a breath of fresh air for Phil that ultimately changed the quality of his day. It also improved his relationship with his wife, as Phil no longer felt anger, but more love and patience for his wife. This, in turn made it easier for her to be more relaxed as well.

Interestingly enough, over time, Phil’s wife got better about being on time. She was no longer wasting energy worrying about her husband being angry with her if she was late. As a result, she could focus much better on what she needed to get done instead of worrying about what her husband was doing.

 

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Jenai LaneI used to schedule my day in fifteen-minute increments. Have you ever run to the bathroom at the absolute last second just because you were so busy? Well, that is how my life was. I was a business leader building a growing consumer product company, which had more employees than I knew how to manage. We were listed in Entrepreneur Magazine as one of the top fastest-growing companies in America. I was twenty-eight years old and on my way to being burned out by thirty. The road paved with success was proving to be less fulfilling than I had imagined.

One day, I did something completely out of the norm, and it changed my life forever. On this particular day, I was feeling trapped and needed a break to just be alone. I remembered reading an article that said taking your focus off your routine, even for a short time, could get your creative juices flowing again. I was hoping for a little more than creativity-I wanted to feel free again. So I told my staff I would be gone for the next two hours, although I had no idea where or what I was going to be doing in those two hours. At the time, this seemed crazy, even to me. There was always something to do and never enough time to do it in, but this compulsion to escape for a while was strong enough to pull me out of the office.

I climbed in my car and began driving, even though I had no idea where I was going. This was even more ridiculous to me. My mind questioned my actions, asking, Why am I wasting my time? There was some other part of me, however, that was suddenly separate from my mind that said,Keep driving. So I did.

I listened to this small voice that seemed to be me, but I hadn’t heard it for a very long time. It kept saying, Drive this way, keep going. I would stop on occasion and ask, “Are we there yet?” like a child on a long car trip, anxious to arrive at their destination. This has been symptomatic of my life, always wanting to get where I was going. Then, when I got there, I was not completely satisfied, so off again I would go to the next place.

I was driving through a neighborhood in San Francisco that I was completely unfamiliar with and saw a Starbucks on the corner. I heard,Pull over. You can imagine my relief. Starbucks was a place I could very much relate to and feel comfortable in. In fact, it kept me going through my sixty-hour work weeks.

I ordered my usual grande soy latte and sat down in a chair with a view of the street outside, enjoying some familiarity in this strange experiment I seemed to be participating in. After several minutes passed by, I noticed a homeless man walking across the street toward Starbucks. As I studied him, I realized I knew him. He was a man from the neighborhood I currently lived in; however, I hadn’t seen him in at least two years. He looked very much the same as I remembered him, dressed in very elegant, preppy-tattered clothing, as if he came out of a J. Crew catalogue and never changed his clothes again.

I was elated to see him because I thought he had died. For many years, he had been a fixture in my neighborhood. I would often buy him coffee, and he would smile and mutter incoherently. There was something about him I could relate to, something that attracted me to him. He had something I wanted, which seemed absurd, considering he lived on the street and was mostly incomprehensible.

Without hesitating, I jumped out of my seat and ran out of Starbucks to greet him. “Remember me, remember me?” I shouted. “You hung out in my neighborhood. I am so happy to see you. How are you?” Before I could finish, he turned and looked at me with a clarity and certainty so powerful, it was as if a wind came and blew right into my face and said,Wake up, child. Needless to say, I was paying attention. Staring deep into my eyes with a power beyond the physical, he said, “You want to help people, but you do not know how.” Then he walked away.

It hit me like a ton of bricks. I could hardly breathe. There was a resonance there that was so deep, it made me stop in my tracks. In that moment, I knew there was some greater vision for my life that I had been willing to ignore. I was meant to help people, and he was right-I didn’t know how. This encounter made me begin to ask those deeper questions of myself: What is success? And do I really have it if I don’t know who I am and how I am meant to contribute to the world? Yes, I had what I had always thought I wanted: a wildly successful business, appearances on national TV, magazine articles written about me, woman entrepreneur of the year. My business success was my dream. Here I was living it, and yet I didn’t feel fulfilled. It felt like a deep hole inside of me that was longing to be filled and everything I had thought would fill it did not.

This strange encounter led me to do the bravest thing I have ever done. I walked away from “success” to find my true path; it was as if I had to leave where I could fit in to find where I belonged. I left my career, my relationship, my home, and my life as I knew it and went on a spiritual pilgrimage of sorts despite my fears of ending up homeless on the street (how ironic). I sat with a shaman in Bali, studied with a medicine man in California, and channeled healing energy with John of God in Brazil, among many other seeking experiences. Each time, I asked the spiritual teacher what I should do with my life and what my next business venture should be, desperately hoping one of them would tell me. Looking back, I bet this was comical to these enlightened masters. Each gave me a variation on the same answer: “Jenai, it is not about doing; just be.” This infuriated me because I had no idea what they were talking about. I went from one teacher to another, attended countless seminars, and read piles of self-help books, hoping that the next teacher, workshop, or book would somehow change me. It’s not that these things didn’t help me-they did-but it was in the seeking that I was never really able to find my own truth (the spirit within me). I was like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, never recognizing I always had the power to go home. I was looking for the great Oz to tell me what to do, when I had the answers within me all along.

Today, all I have to do is look at my life and the people I serve and I can see the evidence of what following my truth, what I call a spirit-led life, can do. I now have a career doing the work I truly love to do, teaching and coaching others how to access their own answers so they have a more direct route home than I did. I call this the Spirit Coach Method and certify those who are called to the path of being Spirit Coaches. I lead spiritual retreats in beautiful places with amazing people and also take groups on spiritual pilgrimages to see John of God in Brazil. At the Foundation for Spiritual Development, I teach healing, intuition development, and living from spirit. In addition, I help run a weekly center that offers free energetic healing to the public. I have the privilege of blessing babies, marrying people, and helping people cross over. All of these things and more are an extension of my true path. If you had told me fifteen years ago that this is the life I would be living, I would have said you were out of your mind. As it happened, “out of my mind” was exactly where I needed to go to find my path, the one that led me to exactly where I belong. Now this is the kind of success I can live with.

 

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Let Go of The PastHow we view reality can be skewed by the past and even, the future. When we allow energetic attachments to form to the past or to some projected future, it takes us out of the limitless nature of present time. For in present time, all possibilities exist, and here in lies the highest and best possibility for us. This can only be found in the present. When we are energetically hooked to the past, this forms a trajectory to where we are currently, and limits our choices based on what we have previously experienced. If we want a new, clear and more aligned choice, we have to clear the past to receive this. It is as simple as stepping outside of the vantage point of mind which inhabits the past, and immediately we let go of a path that is limited, and thus, step into one that is limitless where miracles exist.

Spiritual Practice:
Take a moment to visualize cutting all the cords to your past. Focus in on the feeling you get when you are no longer tethered to your past. Feel the lightness of being that allows you to be fully in the present moment.

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